Guest post by Jennifer
The anti-abortion protesters who stand outside of EMW Surgical Center, harassing people who walk in to the clinic, are frequently proclaiming how many “saves” they had. They consider someone that changes their mind about having an abortion a save. It’s pretty difficult to believe that as many people as they claim changed their minds, actually did. I’m sure some of those saves are just people leaving to go home after their appointment. I’d like to tell you about a time recently when I had my own saves…
Last week, while volunteering as a clinic escort at EMW Surgical Center, an incident happened that demonstrates why we as escorts do what we do. I was positioned by the driveway at the fake clinic, next door to EMW. My job was to get EMW clients into the building as safely as possible with the least amount of disruption. When a car stopped, I would ask them if they had an appointment with EMW. If their response was yes, as all of them were, I would direct them where to park and give them instructions on how to safely get into the clinic. While doing this, one of the women who works at the fake clinic started yelling at me and telling me how rude and awful I was. I’m not sure what’s so horrible about getting people safely to the place in which they wish to go, but she was really angry and wouldn’t stop yelling at me. During this time, she said that she and another woman there had abortions and that they just want to counsel and help people who are considering abortion.
Since this verbal assault, I’ve been thinking about her and wondering what it is that makes her think she has the right to choose what’s best for other people.
Maybe she did have an abortion. Maybe she wishes she didn’t have one; however, according to a study by UCSF 99% of people feel they made the right decisions 5 years post abortion. 1 If she actually did have an abortion and does regret it, does that give her the right to choose for all other people facing this decision? What makes her opinion on a total stranger’s reproductive decision more relevant than the person who’s actually in the situation? Instead of judging, shaming and trying to make reproductive choices for another person, when simply trying to access a legal medical procedure, what if she focused that energy inward? What if she used it to make herself a better person and heal her own insecurities? What if all people did that? Personally, I believe the world would be a much brighter place. It would also make for an easier and less emotionally painful walk for a client going into EMW.
So on this day, I saved 2 cars carrying EMW clients from going into the fake clinic. This to me is the real save.