Sidewalk Snippet ~ {4/22/13}

It is so easy to get sucked into responding to the antis sometimes. I always regret it, but still it seems impossible for me to not respond to comments directed towards me personally.

NB approached close to me and said, “I read your article about the glove and it is so wrong to accuse D of lying.” When that didn’t get me to respond, she tried several more times. The next few comments directed to me didn’t get a response either. “You just write about us all of the time,” did get the response, “Yes. You always give me a lot of material.” And it was on.

M, the anti who thrusts plastic fetus dolls at clients,  joined in to ask me about ultrasounds, the abortion procedure at EMW, “partial-birth” abortion, the difference between the Sandy Hook elementary school shooting and killing babies, and finally the connection between breast cancer and abortion. There was some back and forth conversation between us with these subjects; short answers from me longer statements from M and her repeating, “I just want to understand.”

M was speaking quietly, but statements of, “I prefer not to talk to you about this,” and “This conversation is over,” did not deter her. I finally told her the sidewalk was not an appropriate place for this conversation. It ended when she said she would pray for me to change my mind and me telling her it would not change. Of course, I did have to walk away too. Of course, she trailed after me for a short distance  trying to continue a conversation.

Every time I engage with the antis, I know it is a mistake immediately. We will never change each others minds about our firmly-held beliefs in a back and forth conversation on the sidewalk.

I have gotten a button made saying: I Will Ignore You So Hard You will Start To Doubt Your Own Existence. The button isn’t for them, but a reminder to me that engaging with antis is never productive and never ends well. It has the added bonus of being handy to point to when attempts are made by the antis to engage.


REMINDER: Our annual  fund drive Pledge-A-Picketer is NOW!

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2 thoughts on “Sidewalk Snippet ~ {4/22/13}

  1. I never engage anti’s to change their minds. I engage them to speak my piece and reaffirm my own beliefs. I admit that I’m guilty of liking to hear myself talk.

    Reading this blog, I can see they do the exact same thing. A lot of their actions on the sidewalks are just affirmations to themselves.

    You really make such an important point that a sidewalk just really isn’t the best place for this matter…for either side.

    • Longtail,

      You know it is so hard for me not to speak my piece. Normally I am very outspoken, but when I succumb to the temptation it always creates chaos. Since that is the opposite of what we are striving for, I just have learned to keep quiet. Sometimes my tongue is pretty much chewed on when I leave, but it really is important for the clients. I read an article recently about the escorts in North Dakota who take their vests off if they cannot resist. It would be so tempting, but again it doesn’t decrease the chaos. I have been known to speak my mind freely when my vest is off, we are done for the morning and I am a block away. 🙂


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