Days That Seem The Same

Some days seem to run together when you escort frequently. We hear the same things said by the antis every day. We can recite them verbatim; words meant to shame and coerce clients.

Every now and then a comment seems original and will catch my attention.

“We can arrange an adoption for you. You don’t even have to hire a lawyer. We will take care of everything.”

All of the clients had entered the clinic when this was yelled by T at the waiting room windows. My first thought was, “Sure, I am going to trust a man who comes out to yell at me with taking care of all of my legal questions.”

This is the first time I had heard this particular statement, but I have heard similar things. Usually, they are in the line of, ’We’ll handle everything. You just need to have the baby.’

Then there are the comments aimed towards escorts. Usually this happens when all of the clients are inside the clinic and the antis need a focus for their harassment. We are used to being the target of what the antis say and yell. Most of the time, we ignore these comments directed towards us  too.

The very next day after the reassurance to clients they didn’t need to hire an attorney, an anti turned to me and said, “You are going to die tonight. Are you ready to face God for what you have done today.”

When I heard that I gave a little chuckle. I have a clear conscience. I am sure she meant to say, “If you die tonight…” but the devil is in the details.

Psychic prediction aside, I am still alive. I am still escorting. I am still ignoring comments thrown around by antis to the best of my ability.


REMINDER:  Kentucky Support Network’s 2013 Bowl-a-Thon is April 19! There are many ways to get involved:

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6 thoughts on “Days That Seem The Same

  1. “You just need to have the baby.”

    I just love it when people tell me what I “need” to do . . . to make THEM happy, especially when I don’t even know them and what they “need” from me is the furthest thing from serving my best interests. That particular brand of arrogance is breathtaking.

  2. When people make broad proclamations of what their god wants and how it will judge others (as if they have directly received this divine revelation somehow), I laugh and think which God are you talking about??? There are thousands of gods and mine will judge you just as harshly for standing out in front of a clinic and choosing to have utterly no compassion and causing trauma to others as a ‘holy’ mission of some kind.

  3. I’m sure the police would be very interested in hearing what T had to say. They probably wouldn’t arrest him, but point out what he is promising is very illegal.

    “You are going to die tonight. Are you ready to face God for what you have done today?”

    I can’t read (or hear) things like this without reacting like I was listening to a small child saying, “Are you ready to face Santa Claus for what you’ve done today?” I’d snort and start laughing outright.

    I admire your grace, strength, and tact to merely chuckle a little.

    • Longtail,

      No, they wouldn’t arrest him. T would talk around it not being a “real” offer.

      I have to admit the refrain “…making a list and checking it twice. Gonna find out who’s been naughty and nice” goes through my head frequently when I hear things like that on the sidewalk. Another thing that plays in my head is Jiminy Cricket when D says “let your conscience be your guide” daily. These help me to keep perspective on things and maintain my sense of humor.


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