i have a video today – it’s divided into two parts, just because it was too long to send all together. I didn’t take this one. It was taken one morning a couple of weeks ago when there was a group of clients waiting for the doors to open,
This first clip is the man I call Paul. I have no idea what his real name is – for all I know, it is Paul, but I think I just made that up.
As you can see, he is trying to make the case that if the Bible refers to a fetus as a baby, it means that God is saying a fetus is a the same as an already-born child and abortion is wrong. The logical errors in that are big enough to drive a truck through.
In the background, you can hear the trio singing gospel, and the buzz of escorts, clients and companions, chatting with each other.
Towards the end of the clip you hear Andrew. He says, “This is no light matter we’re talking about, this is your son or daughter…” and then he argues, “If you had a two year old, if someone tried to harm your two year old, would you not stand up for your two year old??”
Um, yes, Andrew, just for the record, if this were my two-year old, I would certainly stand up for them. But it’s not.
The second half of the video is here:
Paul says “Ma’am you cannot block it out. This will stay with you the rest of your life. We got people that know – we got people that been through it. These ones who are here talking with you will not be here for you when you’re done.” That’s the line he used on me that day, the one that made me realize how important it is to have a support system for afterwards.
I went to an abortion speak-out for the Roe v Wade anniversary celebration. One of the women who told her story was about my age, her abortion was probably 30 years ago. She told me later that she had never told the story before.
She said it felt good to say it, to lay it out to a group who would be supportive. I’m glad she did, and it makes me a little sad to think she carried it in silence all these years.
One in three women has an abortion. One in three. How many of us are walking around holding that secret, clutching it to ourselves? But we are creating space for women to speak out now – to push back on the stigma and shame.
It occurs to me, as I watch this video over and over so I can capture their words – I think, if we keep posting videos, eventually, all the antis will be here. And they say the same things over and over. So if you’re going to the clinic, you can come meet them here first. Get to know them.
Then when you come to the clinic, whether you’re a client or a companion, instead of being freaked out and horrified, you’ll be like, “Oh!! That’s Paul – just like the video!! Oh, that’s Mary! Yep, look, she’s got that little plastic fetus she’s trying to shove in my face! And there’s Donna!” You’ll say, “I know these people – it’s just like on the blog!” And their hateful words will slide off you like water off a duck’s back.
That’ll help until we get a buffer zone. Then they won’t be able to get up in your face to yell at all.